Saturday, October 26, 2024
Friday, October 25, 2024
Thursday, October 24, 2024
Sleuthing
I'm still Facebook friends with lots of people that we, my wife and I, were actively friends with a wile back. Most of your local friendships have been with the parents of friends of our children. There are some people we know from work, a local running club, neighbors, etc. But I didn't grow up around here, so there are no childhood friends within 1,000 miles.
Anyway, getting to the point. I saw a post on Facebook of a friend who had been to some kind of event, probably a wedding and there were a bunch of pictures, which I scrolled through. What I didn't see, were any pictures of her husband. Curiosity overcame me and I scrolled through her photo album: After 2017, he is nowhere to be seen.
A quick Google search turned up three items: 1. A man matching his description listed at a nearby address, which is different from their house. 2. A public record of the sale of the house, from the two of them to just the (possibly former) wife.
I discussed all of this with my wife and we are both somewhat sad about all of it and she related a story that she probably told me about before, but had forgotten: She went to some movie with her, as she calls them "lady friends" after words, some of them went to a local, townie kind of place for drinks. She noticed a disheveled man walk by on his way in and afterwards recognized him as the husband.
Item 3. which I kept to myself, (she doesn't read my blog--which I suppose I should mind, but don't.) is that I turned up a police blotter from our local paper, dated about 7 years ago--around when she spotted him: It indicated he'd been arrested for DUI and it was a repeat offense. I didn't want to tell her this, because, depressing. I does raise a question in my mind: Did his drinking break-up the marriage, or did the break-up lead to excessive drinking?
It should be noted that whenever we got together with this couple, they both drank, not excessively, but also, not sparingly.
Wednesday, October 23, 2024
Feelings
And in quiet conversations, some female Harris supporters can’t shake the uneasy feeling that men in their lives are struggling to support a woman — especially a Black and South Asian woman — even if they don’t want to admit it.
Maybe there's another feeling available, one which views men more charitably but comes at the cost of requiring some self-reflection.
Maybe the men in your lives would be delighted to finally have the chance to vote for the best person and have the pleasure of having that person be a woman. What they are more likely struggling with is whether to enjoy the voting for a woman part, but at the cost of knowing that they like the other guy better.
My question for these women: What do you think the men in your lives would think, if they knew that the women in their lives think they are sexist and racist?
Perhaps reflect: Are you voting for Harris because you always vote Democratic? If your men voted for Obama and for Hillary Clinton, maybe you should wonder if lack of support for Harris has something to do with traits which have nothing to do with race of sex.
