Is Being Trans A Choice?

 The answer seemed obvious to me and my wife and also to our two adult offspring in the back of the car, but our answers were opposite.  Why?

For the elder two, the view could be summarized as--you don't choose to have gender dysphoria but you do choose whether to transition into a different gender.  For the younger set, the assumption must be that having gender dysphoria inevitably leads to transitioning, so there's never any choice involved.

The thing is:  Nothing happens on its own.  If you transition, that requires volitional actions.  Even if it's just dressing differently; you would have to get new clothes--they aren't going to just magically appear.

You don't have to transition:

1. You could just, do nothing.

2. You could choose a much more practical course than body modification--you could choose mental health therapy.  In all honesty, this course seems intuitively better in a number of dimensions:

It is less intrusive.

It is easily reversible. 

It preserves your ability to have children. 

You will be much more likely to find a life partner.